private

for those who know me in person, you know that i'm a private person. i don't tell about my private life when i found it's unnecessary for people to know. i'm good at keeping secrets.. somehow it's realized by people close to me that they would tell me things - personal things. though, i don't like my personal life to be mixed with my professional life and i tried that it should be separated no matter how. even those who are regular readers of slesta.com back when blogging was not as popular as now.. you know me damn well that i always remain anonymous unless i get a chance for personal encounter with you.

not once i use my real name, though, many has found out. i insist to use my online name on any correspondence. and i'm very very glad that people respect to this.

however.. akhir2 ini i found it a bit disturbing to hear the news about the secret marriage ceremony of glenn fredly & dewi sandra. udah bukan rahasia lagi kalo mereka menikah kemaren, tgl 3 april. semua orang udah tau. tempatnya dimana juga udah tau... yang kurang cuma satu, pengakuan langsung dari kedua belah pihak. of course, it's their rights not to publish this. i totally agree that if they want it to be private, then they should have it privately. unfortunately, in their case... there's no such things as private because of their status as public figures. kuli tinta & paparazzi kayaknya pada betah banget ngejar2 artis untuk urusan kayak gini. urusan nikah, hamil, melahirkan, selingkuh, si ini pacaran ama si itu.. kayaknya jadi tontonan sehari2. yang bikin gue bingung kenapa sih hal2 seperti itu yang diberitakan.. kadang2 malah yang ga penting banget kayak kebiasaan gigit kuku seorang artis. duh plis deh...

ok enough complaining about those paparazzis. it's a whole other topic. what i find disturbing about the whole mess of glenn-dewi piece, is that people around them denied... yes, DENIED.. that they were arriving in bali for the wedding. malah dengan terang2an mereka bilang kalo mereka ke bali buat liburan. duelah.. do you think we're that stupid? i mean, OK lah mereka trying to protect dewi & glenn, tapi kenapa juga mesti berbohong kayak gitu.. gak mutu banget lagi jawabnya. at least have the dignity to tell it the way it is. but to respect the public.. ya paling gak kasih aja jawaban kayak jawabannya adjie notonegoro waktu ditanya sapa ayah anaknya mayang. simply.. "alah.. kalian kayak gak tau aja? udah pada tau kan? kok pake nanya deh... ". it's simple, not stupidly trying to cover up the truth, it's casual yet not too revealing... and it is the truth.. we all do know who he is.

kayaknya itu udah jadi kebiasaan para artis infotainment di indonesia deh. btw.. there's a different between artists and artis infotainment. artists create arts. artis infotainment adalah selebritis yang the only "art" they create is to make themselves up to be ready for the infotainment cameras and denied everything. gue ga betah aja liat mereka selalu deny something yang obviously true. contohnya...

media: "mbak, katanya mbak udah nikah sama pengusaha J ya?"
artis: "enggak.. saya dipelet sampe mau ama dia"

yeah, di pelet ama mobil & diamonds nya. plissss dehhh!!

that's why i respect those who still have honor to tell the truth, how bad and hurtful it is. like roy marten who got caught carrying drugs. he never said that it wasn't his. dari awal dia selalu bilang.. itu emang punya dia, dia emang salah, dan dia pengen tobat. yeah well, maybe it's a little too late.. but admitting is the beginning part of the recovering. ask any AA members. ato kayak wulan guritno & ananda mikola yang waktu ditanya apa mereka udah putus.. mereka jawab, iya,.. kita sekarang temenan. cukup. dan kita pun juga udah ga peduli lagi. karena toh mau ngapain dikejar2 lagi.. udah kejawab. kalo sampe ditanya kenapa putusnya.. baru deh bisa ngeluarin hak privasi mereka.. cuz it is a private matter.

anyways.. these celebrities are just like normal regular people... they have their private lives even though it's under the microscope of the public eyes. we should respect their privacy, and they should keep their private lives private... but at least they should do it with dignity, not with lies.

i don't know about you... but this is what i think. i know this is such a useless subject, tapi gue gemes aja tiap hari ngeliat berita infotainment ttg dewi & glen, sampe yang udah kayak detective aja nyari beritanya.. duh... lagian kalo emang beneran nikah, kenapa juga ga mau ngaku sih? but then again, it's their rights. keeping it silent is much better than lying to the public.


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